Feeling happier + Kids update
I just realized that tomorrow is the 1st of March...Wow, this year is already flying by! Not complaining though, since we’re getting closer to Spring which I kind of can’t wait for at this point. As I look out the window and watch the SNOW falling...yes, snow...AGAIN...We’ve had more snow here this winter than we’ve had in many years combined. So done with it!
We’ve had 3 good mornings before school - last Friday, yesterday, and today, and I am really noticing the difference it makes in my days over all. I think Andrew may be ‘getting it’, too, that by being happier in the mornings Mommy is happier, too. I’m really hoping it’s becoming a pattern. It's true what they say - 'If Mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy.' I can’t expect to never have rough mornings with the kids, but every day should not be the norm. I feel so much better emotionally right now than I have in a while. Obviously our mornings aren’t the only contributing factor, but it’s one of the biggest, I think.
On Saturday I attended a Ladies’ Night Out event with several friends. We get together at one of their houses and drink and play games and it was just what I needed. We played about a million rounds of Cards Against Humanity, and a bit of Catch Phrase and laughed so much. It was great. I only had 4 coolers, which is less than I’ve drank the other times we’ve had these Ladies’ Nights. The other times I may have felt tired the next day but certainly not hung over. Well on Sunday morning I was barf central and my head was pounding and I thought I was going to die. It was bad. I was also worried because we had plans to go to my aunt’s birthday party downtown that afternoon and there was no way I was going to make it if those symptoms kept up. (When we got the invite to her party I was at least honest and said what my plans were for the night before, so if I couldn’t go it wouldn’t have been a total surprise!) I knew I would feel bad if I didn’t get to go, though, because my parents and brother and sil and cousin were all going to be there, too, and I wanted to see everyone.
Luckily I have the awesomest husband ever, and he took point with the kids till it was time to take Andrew to his dance class. When they left I dragged myself out of bed because the girls wanted me to be downstairs with them, and I pulled myself together and even managed to make a big breakfast/brunch for us to eat before we left for the party. I still felt off for the rest of the day but not to the point that I was throwing up. Crazy, I have no idea what happened there but obviously I didn’t drink enough water, and maybe the fact that we all brought fairly unhealthy foods to share didn’t help my stomach either! It was still really fun, though, and we already have another date in mind for next time. I will be extra careful about how much I drink though, since clearly I can’t handle booze! (And of course I don’t ‘have’ to drink at all, it’s not like I’m being forced to, it’s just fun to be able to let loose every once in a while, so I want to be able to...I just wish my body could handle it better afterwards!)
I feel like I don’t update enough on the kids and the actual details of what they’re up to and all of that. There’s so little time to really think about the little things when living them day to day, but I wish I could hold on to all the little memories of what they say and do because they’re so delightful (much of the time, anyway!!)
Andrew is really into reading now, he finishes chapter books so fast and I know he’s really reading them because afterwards he talks all about the stories and his favourite parts. My cousin-in-law gave him a Star Wars book on Sunday and by yesterday morning he had read the whole thing and was taking the little quizzes at the back of the book! He’s obsessed with Star Wars and thoroughly enjoyed going to see Rogue One with Daddy several weeks ago. But his absolute fave is Force Awakens and in particular all things Kylo Ren. He loves math and science and has taken up writing in a little journal on a fairly regular basis. He’s a smart boy, and while he can be very attitudinal with me at times these days, he’s also a very sweet, and kind little guy. I guess he’s not so little anymore, he’s actually grown up a ton already this past year, but he’s still my baby boy in some ways. He doesn’t cuddle as much as he used to but he does still enjoy cuddles. He doesn’t hold my hand anymore when we’re out together, although he probably would take my hand if I suggested it! I sometimes catch myself automatically going to take his hand if we’re crossing the street or whatever, but then I remind myself that he’s 8 and he really shouldn’t have to hold my hand for such things anymore! It’s hard sometimes, that realization that he’s growing up so quickly. He’s still not shy to give me a kiss before he heads into his classroom in the morning, and I would say I’m the only parent getting a hug and kiss like that, but I know it’s only a matter of time before that’s a thing of the past as well! Last year he would practically be attacking me with hugs and kisses before school, whereas now it’s a quick hug and kiss, but he’s still not shy about it! I often drop him off and pick him up now without even getting out of the van, I just park close to where his classroom is and he makes his way to and from on his own. Although I won’t be able to do that next year as once the girls are in Kindergarten I will be back to spending 15-20 minutes in the classroom every morning, but he’ll be having to make his way to his class on his own. It’s kind of a saving grace now to have their age difference between them, because he’s old enough to do things on his own that way, whereas if he was a few years younger I would be stressing over how I’d get him to class and make sure he felt safe and happy while also not getting the girls to class late. Obviously people do it and manage just fine, but Andrew was such a mama’s boy and such a little cling-on that I don’t think he’d have handled it entirely well if we’d had to do things that way!
Margaret and Emily are so sweet and wonderful (nope, I’m not the least bit biased!!) They still play really well together for the most part. Margaret will still bite Emily once in awhile if she’s annoyed with her for something, but it’s fairly infrequent now. She doesn’t bite anyone else, just her sister! Poor Emily! She’s my Golden Girl. LOL She can still be super whiny every now and then which in all honesty can grate my nerves, but most of the time she is so well-behaved and just not really a troublemaker in the least. She doesn’t like to get in trouble, and even if she’s not in trouble but a voice is raised for any reason whatsoever and she thinks it’s directed at her, she will start bawling. She’s quite sensitive! But she’s also very secure and happy, and just has a very sweet nature to her. So does Margaret. As much as she is the mischievous one and sometimes will fudge the truth a bit because she knows she’s done something naughty, she is such a little sweetheart. Very compassionate toward others, and will even remember months after seeing someone to ask how they’re doing as she’ll remember whatever may have been ailing them the last time we visited. She’s a people person for sure, and an animal lover (especially dogs). Emily is more shy than her sister but is definitely opening up a lot, which I’ve really noticed recently at the school. On some of the nicer days (cold, but sunny) we’ve stuck around after school to play at the playground and both the girls have so many friends who are around Andrew’s age. Margaret tends to go off and, after running around for a bit, sits with some of the girls and chats as if she’s in grade 2 or 3 like they are! Whereas Emily finds another group of friends and plays tag or hide and seek with them. I love that they are such close sisters and do love to be near each other, but are also individually confident enough to do their own thing and have their own group of friends.
The girls love their dolls and dollhouse, Barbies and stuffies. Emily gravitates more toward dolls and the smaller toys like Barbies and dollhouse stuff. Or Lego, or pretty much anything she can set up. One thing I find really cute with all 3 kids is that they call a lot of their toys their ‘set.’ Where is my Lego set, or let’s play with my castle set, etc. Margaret loves all those types of toys, too, but tends to have a bit less of an attention span for playing with things like that for a longer period of time. I think Emily has the best attention span of all 3 kids for staying focused on something, and her most favourite thing in the world is for someone to sit down and play with her. Margaret is obsessed with stuffies and would own a million of them if she could. She’s already getting close!! We have a ridiculous amount of stuffed toys. It’s actually out of control. But she truly loves them, and goes through cycles of which are her favourites. Before bed she will pick which one she will want for the night, and I am to ‘warm it up’ for her and then when I go to bed, give it to her along with ‘going right by her side and kissing her 6 times, and Emmy, too!’ :D She expects me to sit there all evening with the stuffed animal being warmed up by my armpit, when in reality I leave the stuffy by the stairs to remind myself to take it up with me when I’m going to bed! Margaret still often wakes up several times before I go to bed but is fairly good about not waking us up through the night even if she does wake up. The kids would all be up by 6am every morning if they had their way, but they’re ‘trained’ now to wait for James (or me, but let’s face it, it’s usually James!) to get up, which is usually closer to 7am lately. Even if they’re awake they just lay in bed waiting till someone gets up so they can go downstairs. We’d love for them to just get up on their own and go downstairs and play or watch a show on their own, but it hasn’t happened yet!
The kids are pretty much up for anything, and I look forward to all the fun we’ll have out at parks and doing spring and summery stuff in the coming months. With them being that much older now, they’re even more able to do things without James and I having to rip our hair out. We took them to a park on Saturday afternoon and actually stopped by Starbucks to get ourselves coffee (Mmmm, Chai Tea Latte! I only have Starbucks a few times a year so it’s such a treat and I always get the same thing!) and told them we wanted to be able to just sit and sip our drinks while they played and they LISTENED! We were shocked, as usually even if we said that there’s no way it would actually happen. We did push them on the swings and play hide and seek with them, but not till after we’d both actually finished our drinks and enjoyed just sitting together for a bit. We honestly thought this day would never come, but it did!